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Writings for Your Heart & All that Impacts Its Wellness!


by Dr. Marwa Assar 

  • Dr. Marwa Assar

Say This One Statement to Transform Your Prayers!

I want to share with you one statement that can completely shift the way you approach your prayers and help you derive the nourishment it was designed to give you! ❤

This is a statement that I not only have utilized in my own life but one that I also teach about in my Online God & Me Psycho-Spiritual Transformation Program! But before I tell you what this statement is, I want to encourage you to check in with your heart and ask yourself:

How has your relationship been with prayer?

How is your level of presence in prayer? How does your heart feel when the prayer time comes in? Do you find yourself enjoying the act of making wudu and getting ready for prayer? Is prayer nourishing your heart these days or do you find yourself just going through the motions? Do you feel that your heart is open and eager to stand before God? Or does your heart feel heavy and you find yourself dragging your feet to simply check it off your to do list?

Take a moment to reflect upon these questions and think about how your heart has been reacting to prayer lately!

If you feel that your prayer has not been nourishing your heart, if you feel that you have been on cruise control and just going through the motions, and if you feel that the prayers you are not present with outnumber the prayers you are present with, then please take a moment and open your heart to what I am about to share with you!

Over the years, I have analyzed the psychology of prayer and the way we interact with prayer and our acts of worship. And through working with many people on not only their psychological struggles but on their spiritual ones too, I found that there is a key ingredient we ALL have to have in order to positively shift our mind and heart before we pray so that we can maximize its benefit, be more present with God, and gain the nourishment and strength that God designed prayer to give us!

So what is this ingredient?

It is this: Remembering We NEED God.

The first mistake we make that impacts the quality of our acts of worship is forgetting we need God. Once we forget our need for Him, our heart loses interest in being present and connecting with Him. This is the root problem of creation and it exists in all of us: arrogance.

Arrogance isn't just thinking we are better than others. Arrogance is also thinking we are above needing. We think we are above needing the help of others and even God. It is so subtle sometimes. Often times, we are unaware.

It exists when we approach our prayer and we are just going through the motions. Our limbs are working but our heart is on sleep mode because we forgot that we are in need. We know God does not benefit from our prayer but we pray at times as if He does and we are just there physically to check off something He needs.

We forget that the prayer is there BECAUSE we are in need and will ALWAYS need to be linked to our Source and Creator.

God reminds us in the Qur'an: "Whoever is grudging is so only towards himself: God has no needs and you are the needy ones. He will substitute other people for you if you turn away, and they will not be like you." (47:38)

When we forget our need of Him, our heart will not be motivated to be present. That is because human beings are driven by fulfilling needs. Think of how present you would be in a conversation with a potential employer in an interview. If you need the job, you will be present and you will approach that interview with much more attentiveness, eagerness, and a readiness to gain. But if you didn't need the job, you might find yourself dragging yourself to the interview. You may not even be fully present with the person interviewing you. Or let's just say you were in a meeting later that day where you didn't feel you have much to gain, you may find yourself mentally checking out!

Our level of presence is heightened when we believe we truly need what is infront of us.

People who are more present in their lives realize that what is right infront of them has something valuable to offer them and they are connected to their need of what lies in the here and now.

Whenever we find ourselves not present in our dua (supplications), in our zikr (remembrance of God), in our prayers, we must remind ourselves that we are always in need of God. We are in need of His help, His guidance, and His mercy. We are in constant need of His provisions which He can take away at any time but doesn't, even though we may at times be ungrateful.

Realizing our need of God doesn't mean we are always asking either. It often means we realize how much He gives and provides to us, that we simply just want to thank Him.

Remember when Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) would spend the nights praying and Aisha (rA) would wonder why he was doing that if He was already guaranteed jannah (heaven). His answer was: "Shouldn't I be a grateful servant?" That is what realizing our need of God does. It connects us to how much He gives us, supports us, provides for us, and shows mercy towards us. Realizing our need reminds us that He is the Greatest of Givers.

When we become so deeply connected to this truth, that we are in need of God, our heart has no choice but to connect to Him because it realizes it can't get its nourishment anywhere else.

So the next time we approach our prayer, I encourage myself and you to take a moment before we start and remind ourselves of how much we are in need of God, and as you reflect upon your need for God, I encourage you to say this one statement until your heart feels its significance: "I NEED this prayer."

Whether you are having a good day or bad day, whether you are in good or bad circumstances, make it a consistent habit and practice to remind yourself of your constant and eternal need of God. Every time you hear the athan (call to prayer), or you see the prayer time has come in, tell yourself, "I NEED this prayer."

This one statement, this one sentence, will transform the way you view your prayer and by the end of the prayer, you will find your heart more nourished than when you started!

May God help us remember Him, be grateful to Him, and help us excel in worship of Him. ❤


Want to continue learning how to transform your acts of worship and receive the nourishment they were designed to offer you? Click below to watch my FREE webinar!


Click here to learn about my God & Me Psycho-Spiritual Transformation Program, a program designed to help you feel more ENOUGH, WHOLE, & NOURISHED, through your relationship with God and with yourself. In this program, I teach you my Heart Over Mind & Ego (H.O.M.E) Approach to Psycho-Spiritual Wellness and the tools you need to transform your your relationship with God and with yourself! This is a program that takes you on a psychological and spiritual journey in which you gain the knowledge and tools you need to lead with your heart and empower your spiritual, mental, and emotional wellness!

"Educating the Mind Without Educating the Heart, is No Education at All."



About the Author:

Dr. Marwa Assar is a psychologist, educator, and founder of The H.O.M.E

Institute. She is dedicated to providing psycho-spiritual education and empowerment through an Islamic psychological lens. Click here to learn more about Dr. Marwa and her work.

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